Lust Thrust Thursdays: The Bisexual Equinox

Welcome to the first day of fall, also known as the Autumnal Equinox. It’s not all pumpkin spiced lattes, crunchy leaves and hay rides. There’s something witchy in the air. The equinox falls in the middle of Bisexual Awareness Week (September 19-26), a week that, as GLAAD puts it, “celebrates the resiliency of the bisexual community.” While the community does have ongoing concerns with acceptance, public policy and equality in general, let’s take advantage of the equinox to celebrate bisexual pride.

Find Balance

The Autumnal Equinox is all about balance. It’s about the autumn and spring seasons being on opposite sides of the equator. For those who enjoy Astrology, the Autumnal Equinox is when the sun enters Libra, which is the sign of balanced scales. At a glance, bisexuality is an orientation rooted in symmetry. So are you balanced? Are you dating as much as you work? As you working as much as you date? Are you giving yourself equal opportunities to mingle and date with all genders you have the potential to be attracted to?

Thanks and Blessing

Autumn is the beginning of the thanks and blessing season (Thanksgiving, for example). And while bisexuals have a long way to go before being fully respected, we can’t forget to thank the people in our lives that get it right. The best friend. The roommate. The lover. The counselor that you went to a couple of times. The people that didn’t ostracize you for being your amazing bisexual yourself.

Tell stories

Autumn is about family gatherings, and while some of us may be at our throats with certain blood relatives, remember that your chosen family is just as important and real. Gather around the people who love you and tell your story. Talk about the excitement of a first kiss, or the fear of coming out, the wonderful and awkward moments. ‘Tis the season to use your voice.


Obviously. The Autumnal Equinox is a harvest celebration. Crops. Fertility. Sex. These are interconnected themes in the world. There is no better way to celebrate Bisexual Awareness Week and the commencement of the fall season than by saying thanks to your partner, or yourself, through carnal expression.

Feel free to add pumpkin spiced lattes to any of these (let me know how that works in the bedroom if you do). Make sure to track the #biweek hashtag on your favorite social network to join the conversation about bisexuality and awareness. Happy Autumnal Equinox!

Gem Blackthorn is QMT's Sex Columnist, and the author/curator of Lust Thrust Thursdays. Send her your submissions and questions at sexsexsex [at]

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